Posts by strawberry cake

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I can see clearly now the watchtowers gone

by jacethespace in

isnt it so strange that the moment that you get away from the watchtower and live life everything soon begins to get better ?

at the moment things seem to be looking up for me now.. it seems to me now that a lot of watchtower routine week in and week out is a complete waste of time and effort that could be spent in other more healthy pursuits in life.. as a jw your time is caught up in a never ending pursuit of work,study,meetings,field circus.its no wonder all jws want to see the end come about.but could they also be longing for an end to the never ending monotony there in?

ironically enough.. plus as a jw [ personally for me ] you are constantly feeling tired and worrying about fitting time in to do everything that needs to be done in a given week.also there is very little time for family especially if your family are none witnesses.i found this intresting when i mentioned to an elder whithin the congregation that my family complained about me never having time for them.he told me his mom was often saying the same things about him.. then theres good old field circus.most time i spent in " the field" i feel was wasted as most people see this door to door work as annoying and even if they do have the magazines or even agree to a study most never ever convert to the tower.its anything but a life saving work.. its also tiring just trying to keep up the appearance that everythings fine and being a jw makes you oh so happy when thats not true.or as the elder who lives nextdoor does whenever i see him lately and say hi he walks away whistling.as if whistling shows your happy.its a front.. in contrast now out of the tower theres plenty of time to plan life and think for yourself.you have plenty of time to take an intrest in family and friends and do good things for others.. i also feel a lot healthier mentally and physically for not having to constantly be running around none stop.and the other thursday when it was time for meetings and the elder left the house next door i didnt feel like i was doing anything wrong when i to walked out the house and said hello and then carried on my own way, maybe next time i,ll whistle too.. the only thing that still bothers me is just not knowing all the answers to where the worlds heading.. but im still waiting for all those demons to pop up and plague me for leaving truth.i guess there on holiday.. .

strawberry cake

I love this song! xxx SC

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Did you get to say Goodbye...?

by strawberry cake in

i know that they are conditional friends.

i also know i will make more friends.

i have said goodbye to some and upset the elders by telling jw friends that i don't believe the wts any more.

strawberry cake

Thank you so much sharing your experiences and encouragement. You guys are so supportive. When you are frozen out by the organization it really does become a strategic game. My husband and I (who is leaving at the same time) are spending hours discussing what they may do next. What we should do next.We also do not want to compromise our own faith in God and lie to keep them at bay. We are very close to the clean break. Your support helps us to think straight. I hope my experiences can forewarn others of what tends to happen when you disagree publicly with the WTS. All the best xxx Strawberry Cake.

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Did you get to say Goodbye...?

by strawberry cake in

i know that they are conditional friends.

i also know i will make more friends.

i have said goodbye to some and upset the elders by telling jw friends that i don't believe the wts any more.

strawberry cake

Dear Hopeforothers Yes, they most probably will... x SC

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Did you get to say Goodbye...?

by strawberry cake in

i know that they are conditional friends.

i also know i will make more friends.

i have said goodbye to some and upset the elders by telling jw friends that i don't believe the wts any more.

strawberry cake

I know that they are conditional friends. I also know I will make more friends. I have said goodbye to some and upset the elders by telling JW friends that I don't believe the WTS any more. I have sent a few texts and have been told that I am texting people and planting doubt. Just Saying goodbye, Jehovahs blessing is seen as planting doubts because I choose to leave..(well I can't help that!) The elders are panicking, announcements to warn the congregation this week. I refuse to disappear without saying goodbye. Even if their love is conditional, mine isn't... We have our DA letter ready..may send it if pushed.(was hoping to avoid a complete shun,daft really) xxx Strawberry Cake

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Is it better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all ?

by strawberry cake in

in other words from the jw point of view, only marry another jw.

he also quoted some anonymous person who said that.. "what is worst than being single is being married to the wrong person"....personally, my view is "it is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all?"..

the wts are allowing many, mainly sisters to live lonely lives because of this directive to only marry other jws.

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sorry.. I should have said your friend... Is she an unbaptized publisher yet?( the step before baptism)or is she baptized? if she is either, she will be accountable. If found to have a worldly boyfriend. Her parents, if strict JWs, will be very upset. If she is neither baptised or an unbaptised publisher she could just brazen it out and stand her ground. However there could be 'sparks'. She could keep it all a secret but You would have to hide, because in the JW community there are'spies'everywhere! xxx Strawberry Cake

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Am I the only one that didnt realize about the GB?

by yourmomma in

jw
friends

here is a question for you.

i'll give a little back ground.

i was raised in the witness organization however in about 1993 i encountered much hypocrisy and left for about 3 years.

strawberry cake

When I got baptized in 1995 I believed I was dedicating my life to Jehovah, not to old men in Bethel. I thought these men were humble seekers of truth..nothing more.

xxx Strawberry Cake

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Jehovah's Witnesses Are NOT Conscientious & They Don't Really Care!

by minimus in

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friends

witnesses try to make it sound as though they are very very conscientious people.

they care about you, your spiritual welfare, your everlasting welfare....but nothing could be further from the truth!

if they truly cared, they would see to it that they reached people to give them the lifesaving truth.

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Well, in my congregation we had very zealous sisters who where regularly out on service and took their commission to preach very seriously..I was one of them. In all weathers, we were there...kids in tow... What I noticed however, was the fact that 90% of the brothers/including elders, didn't have this same zeal. It was a waste of time passing on calls to them, as very often they did nt follow them up, or took too long to get there. It was difficult to pin the brothers down to take on interesting ,but difficult calls. If the house was dirty, if the householder argumentative, a scholarly penticostal, a muslim, an alcoholic..the brothers would somehow excuse themselves of the responsibility. Also, whilst from the platform they encouraged pioneering and part-time work ..Most of the elders had top jobs, a big house and went on expensive holidays... When I 'turned off' the WT, it dawned on me.."They don't really believe it all" Their actions proved this... xxx Strawberry Cake

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I left after 9 years ...

by sacolton in

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friends

i just disassociated myself after nine long years in the wtbts after researching the history of the wtbts and its founders and their lies, false prophecies and mind-control doctrines.

read my profile for more about that.

anyway, i'm glad there is a wonderful support group for those who have escaped the grasp of the wtbts and enjoy life again without the constant fear that the wtbts instills at every meeting.

strawberry cake

Welcome to the forum! xxx Strawberry Cake

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Is it better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all ?

by strawberry cake in

in other words from the jw point of view, only marry another jw.

he also quoted some anonymous person who said that.. "what is worst than being single is being married to the wrong person"....personally, my view is "it is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all?"..

the wts are allowing many, mainly sisters to live lonely lives because of this directive to only marry other jws.

strawberry cake

Dear Takethat it is just plain awful. How do they get away with this? So many wonderful, spiritual people, who just want to serve God and do what's right are having their lives ruined by the evil directives from the GB... I too know of someone who committed suicide. She was 44. She had hoped and prayed that she would one day find some to marry. She was a kind, loving person, who would take time to visit sick one, talk to the children and would make a point of saying hello to as many people as she could at the meetings. She would also, often arrange restaurant trips. She was well loved..(I thought)..She took an overdose ... When she died..the elders played the whole thing down. There was a lot of 'whispering' going on ..People wanted to know what happened. So one elder said from the platform...."It doesn't matter how she died. She's dead!!" I couldn't believe how insensitive he was! They were not even sure how to handle this suicide and were very slow to give comfort to her family. The family were very hurt by this...After the funeral, she seemed to be forgotten so quickly. It was weird. I feel SO grateful to have wised up. xxx Strawberry cake

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Is it better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all ?

by strawberry cake in

in other words from the jw point of view, only marry another jw.

he also quoted some anonymous person who said that.. "what is worst than being single is being married to the wrong person"....personally, my view is "it is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all?"..

the wts are allowing many, mainly sisters to live lonely lives because of this directive to only marry other jws.

strawberry cake

Dear xig28...Welcome to the board..I haven't been here long myself..The support found here is invaluable. With regards your question.....................once a jw is baptized can they actually have a relationship with a non-jw or it isnt possible? because i have asked a few people and they say i can have a relation with her, but others say i cant? what is it? In my experience, she can do what she likes, but there are consequences. She will be counseled by the elders to 'bring her to her senses' She will be prevented from answering up at the meeting, possibly after a private or a public reproof. She will also be considered bad association, and possibly will find herself being shunned by members of the congregation. Her reputation will be ruined. If you visit the hall with her you will probably notice the brothers and sisters are non too friendly..(if they know you are not a brother.This all depends on the type of brothers and sisters at the hall.) So, really it also depends on how your girlfriend views her possition in the organization. All the best to both. xxx Strawberry Cake